My three biggest Declutter Struggles

No matter where you are on your minimalist/personal style/decluttering journey you probably came across some items that were so hard to discard that you might have procrastinated the process or just kept the items because it was too difficult to get rid of them. Well, so did I. The struggle is real, people. Maybe you have a hard time with the following categories aswell which challenge my strength just about everytime…

1. Expensive Items

That‘s a classic! I think everyone who ever decluttered their wardrobe held a piece in their hands that they wear only in their fantasy from time to time or not at all. Or they used to wear it and then something changed: their style preferences, their life circumstances or their body. On my list of expensive items I held on to for a long time without using them was a beautiful black DKNY leather bag. It was a Chanel 2.55 look alike and soft as butter. So it supposed to be in my closet for many years as I wanted to build a beautiful wardrobe that lasts.

But in retrospect I understand that at that time I didn‘t really understand my style essence and chose things I loved on other people. But they had little to do with my authentic self. And even when I understood that I feel like I play dress up in very classic items, I just couldn‘t let go. I thought about the money spent (not even by me, it was a gift) and how wasteful it is to get something expensive and get rid of it again. But the reality was: The money was gone. Period. And it wouldn‘t come back if that beauty was sleeping in a dark drawer waiting to come to life again. So I decided to cut my losses, be the prince who comes to rescue and give it another life in someone elses wardrobe. And I was able to get a little bit of money still that went straight back into my wardrobe budget.

2. High quality items

That was (and still is) much harder for me than to declutter something expensive. I love high quality everything… soft cotton, cozy wool, luxurious silk… you name it. So I tend to hold on to them even when I don‘t wear them. Even when I don‘t look good in them. Great quality is a magnet for me and unfortunately where I live it‘s not too easy to find items that are of high quality and look good. So it is a struggle to replace things.

A current example is my classic bias cut Silk Laundry silk cami. I ordered it from Australia in 2019. And I was blown away by the quality. The silk is so creamy that it feels like a tiny baby cloud on my extremely sensitive skin. Also she brought me through some pretty bad heat waves when I couldn‘t imagine surviving them at all. I have to admit that I was very disappointed by the color. It supposed to be white but instead it was ivory. One of my not so flattering colors. But I didn‘t wanna go through the return process with customs involved so I kept her… but was not as happy. I thought so many times about letting her go and now after three years I still consider finding her a new home on a regular basis. But for now I keep her and still enjoy the baby cloud feeling during a heat wave.

3. Tailored items

So as you might have heard before, ready-made clothing doesn‘t fit most people very well. It supposed to fit an average that does exist only in theory. And it possibly cannot fit everybody as our bodys are so different and unique. A few decades ago it was normal to buy clothes and get them tailored to your body. Fast fashion changed that. It doesn‘t make sense anymore to spend more money on tailoring than on the item itself, does it? Also the materials and cuts have changed. Elastics and loose cuts allow more diverse bodys to look good in the same item. So tailoring is not as essential anymore and a lot of people don‘t use that service at all. Unless their bodys stand out from the theoretical standard so much that the clothes simply don‘t fit. It can be the body height, big boobs with a small waist or the arm length.

For me it is wide hips paired with round thighs and a small waist. What some style gurus describe as a kind of a holy grail you have to aim for is a serious factor to consider when it comes to my personal shopping and budgeting: the hourglass figure. Do I like it? Hell yes! Does it make my shopping much more difficult? Absofuckinglutely! The truth is that I can either go for a high-waisted elastic band or get my pants tailored at the waist. (And I can tell you, the tailoring adds up.)

So it is hard to discard something that fits well when the process to find something that fits okay enough to get it to the tailor is so energy consuming. Because tailoring is an admirable craft but it is not witch craft. A garment has to fit good enough for it to be tailored. Otherwise the whole structure is going to be ruined. You don‘t want that. Unfortunatly in my country most pants are not made for my body type. The majority of them is more or less straight from waist to hips. Not flattering for curves. So when I finally find something worth the tailoring and I don‘t like it anymore… puh it is not easy to let go. The struggle to find something plus the additional cost of getting it tailored is a lot of energy invested.

Of course I have an example that I have just decluttered. My Dr. Denim raw denim mom jeans. I liked the quality a lot, they are soft and robust and look pretty cool. What I was missing was the comfort. They were 100% cotton so there was no respect for curves whatsoever. And I really need to be able to move without restrictions. So either the pants have to be very loose or elastic. As I recently found a replacement I said goodbye to my mom jeans. But I was keeping them in a drawer for a while negotiating with myself whether I really should let them go or keep them just in case. In the end they found a new home.